PT - JOURNAL ARTICLE AU - Kannai, Ruth TI - The Untaught Lesson AID - 10.1370/afm.1855 DP - 2015 Nov 01 TA - The Annals of Family Medicine PG - 587--588 VI - 13 IP - 6 4099 - http://www.annfammed.org/content/13/6/587.short 4100 - http://www.annfammed.org/content/13/6/587.full SO - Ann Fam Med2015 Nov 01; 13 AB - My fellow physician and friend died from a rare type of cancer. She was a model for me in many respects. She showed me how to cope with a chronic disease together with a demanding professional life, yet she left me without any comfort or guidelines on how to contend with a terminal disease.This story is a reflection on my frustration and disappointment with my friend’s final choices that prevented us from processing our feelings and sharing our deepest thoughts. The story includes reflections and insights about our ability to understand and accept the preferences of patients and others close to us.