RT Journal Article SR Electronic T1 The Untaught Lesson JF The Annals of Family Medicine JO Ann Fam Med FD American Academy of Family Physicians SP 587 OP 588 DO 10.1370/afm.1855 VO 13 IS 6 A1 Kannai, Ruth YR 2015 UL http://www.annfammed.org/content/13/6/587.abstract AB My fellow physician and friend died from a rare type of cancer. She was a model for me in many respects. She showed me how to cope with a chronic disease together with a demanding professional life, yet she left me without any comfort or guidelines on how to contend with a terminal disease.This story is a reflection on my frustration and disappointment with my friend’s final choices that prevented us from processing our feelings and sharing our deepest thoughts. The story includes reflections and insights about our ability to understand and accept the preferences of patients and others close to us.