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I applaud the posting of this article and the honesty, however, I feel nausea at the reality. I am in school specifically to address this issue. When are we going to recognize our perpetration by silence? How do we expect the abused, the hurting, and the damaged to be the ones to save themselves from monstrous power inequities? We have access to the victim's life and body and the story is available if we take the time, in...
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After returning from a forensic workshop in 1986, I determined to ask all the boys in my caseload about sexual abuse as routinely as I did the girls. Fully 50% of the boys who were referred to the exceptional education program (which included gifted, visually impaired, hearing impaired and physically impaired as well as learning disability and cognitively impaired) reported unwanted sexual contact. I was stunned and hum...
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I applaud Dr. Neher for his article, The Decade Dance. I have forwarded the Denver information I have about survivors of childhood sexual abuse to him. Maybe you can circulate it in HOPES of helping other victims. The Foundation in Denver is: WINGS; 1.800.373.8671 or 1.303.238.8660; fax--1.303.238.4739.
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Thank you to the author and commentators for the enlightenment.... particularly the doctor who said he asks not "Have you ever been abused?" but the more productive "How has abuse affected your life?" I work with abused boys ages 7 to 16 (in an equine-assisted program in residential treatment).... I can't imagine what they've been through, but I hope what little I do to help also helps prevent some of the subsequent phys...
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As a 56 year old patient, I've had many opportunites of whether or not to tell about my sexual abuse. On balance, I would say it is probably better not to. None of the doctors I've told have been able to use the information in a helpful way, and I opine most have held it against me. My favorite example is a gynecologist who hurt me during the exam --after I told him I had been sexually abused.When he was finished he sai...
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First I want to applaud Jon Neher for his work with this patient and for his taking time to share the interesting story. Patients like Mr. Kelley are not unusual. Nor is the time (10 years) that it took for Mr. Kelley to share his secrets unusual. Many many individuals, who have been traumatized from early sexually abusive relationships, take 1, 2 or 3 decades to divulge the trauma and tragedy. In fact, John Neher can ta...
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Dr. Neher does a nice job of articulating an occurance in primary care that often goes unaddressed. The adverse childhood experiences study, a decade-long and ongoing collaboration between Kaiser Permanente’s Department of Preventive Medicine in San Diego, California, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, documents that growing up (prior to age 18) in a household with: --Recurrent physical abuse. --Recurre...
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I am a clinician who has made identifying and treating domestic violence a priority in my practice. I "routinely" ask all of my patients - both men and women - how violence or abuse has affected their lives. As I read Dr. Neher's reflections on The Decade Dance, I was reminded of several recent encounters with patients I had known for years and who had only recently disclosed to me that they had been victims of abuse....
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